Too Busy To Let Yourself Have Flowers In Your Life

 People are so busy, that they barely can notice that something new is growing up near their office or something disappeared at all. So I am not talking about just flowers, I am talking about the world.     

The life is changing, the world is changing, we are standing and in one day do not understand why our position does not coincide with the reality. And that’s all is happening so quick that we just have no opportunity to follow it. But do we need to? I actually do not know, and no one knows I think. Different people have different opinions and even the experts in one sphere can give you opposite advises. For example, if you want to lose weight you’ll find so many ways to do it in the internet that barely could understand what is going on in this sphere. The same is happening in all spheres of life. So what to do? I can propose you the ways I personally check for myself to be happy and let myself to have flowers in this quick paced lifetime. I have 7 ways to do it.

              Do not let yourself think too much

This can sound ridiculous, but I believe in the overthinking. We are thinking when we are studying, when we are working, when we are driving, when we are communicating and so on… Almost every minute in our life we are thinking about something. So I have a question: When were you thinkless last time? We do not let ourselves to have Rest from the flow of information around, even in our minds. 

My advice: Choose three actions in a day when you will stay thinkless. For me it is: water flowers on the patio, making cleaning and taking shower. At least three times a day I let all thoughts go away and feel restful even in a very busy day. 

            Let yourself something new

Our usual life looks stable. We are going to work, having dinner at our favorite café or at home, communicating with people we know. Very seldom we let something new comes to our life. And in such life flow we feel stressful when coincide with changeable world.

My advice: Do something new every month. Visit the restaurant you have never been at before. Meet someone new. Do what you have never done before: dance, sew or cook the dinner, whatever you choose. So in a year you will have 12 new things that will increase the ability to perceive the life that is constantly changing.

         Let yourself be imperfect

A lot of energy is losing to efforts make everything perfect. We want to be perfect workers, perfect partners, perfect people and we are very disappointed with ourselves when making some mistakes. The fear of making something wrong does not let us enjoy with the real life.

My advice: Next time when you will feel fear, just say: “I let myself to do this mistake”. When I am afraid to talk to someone new I always say to myself: “I let myself to be funny. I let myself to say something wrong. I let myself not to be perfect speaker.” After this it is much easier to do what you are afraid of and you will feel less stressful and more happy and free. 

         Let yourself negative emotions

The wish to be good always exists. We want people love us, be with us and recognize our influence in the world. We want to be good so hard that suppress our negative emotions. We accumulate them inside and let them control our mood and decisions. 

My advice: Let yourself be sad, be angry and negative. But I propose you to do it at a certain day of the week at a certain time. I understand that emotions arise immediately at the time when they arise so be ready to save them for later. Have a notebook with you to write them down and then at a certain time find the quiet place and let yourself go through all negative feelings. If you feel negative emotions every day, you can practice this technic every day. Your mental wellness will be grateful for you.

            Achieve your goals

I do not mean you have to put a big goal and achieve it at a short period of time. Just plan something small and make it real at the same day. We love ourselves in our achievements. What are you doing form the way you are thinking about yourself. Actually not the other’s people thoughts, but our own thoughts create our self-esteem. The other people can influence how we are evaluating ourselves, but that are just we who put the mark.

My advice: Every time when you are thinking bad about yourself just ask:” Is this the way I think about myself or these are thoughts of the other people?” 

        Reveal your fears

Fears can change a lot in our lives. They can force us to do something good, can be motivators, but they can also stop us of doing something. Are they bad or good? I believe they are not bad, nor good. They are like concealer. The fears hide some our positions, uncertainty, feelings, everything we think the other people will laugh or judge at us. Are you really afraid talking in front of the crowd or you are thinking the other people will judge you as not very good speaker and you will be disappointed with yourself. On every situation you can look from different sides. 

My advice: Write down all fears you think you have and opposite to each of them write down what is actually hiding behind them. No one else knows what you put inside in your fear. Sometimes different people can hide different things behind the same.

    Do not let yourself think you know the other’s thoughts

The most mistakes in my life I made because I thought I know what the other people thinking about it. But actually I didn’t, I couldn’t. We think that we know, although we don’t know the background of the person, the feelings he or she is hiding, the way his or her day started today and a lot of other details that could influence the way this person will be thinking at that moment. 

My advice: Do not think about other’s thoughts, just about your own. Ask yourself: “What am I thinking about doing it?” I practice this in such way: I feel so good today and decide to make a present to my mom, just flowers for no occasion. The next thought I could get is that the mom will think I am a good daughter. At this moment I will stop myself and ask what I am thinking about doing it. So I do not want to be a bad or good daughter, I just want to share my good mood and make happy some person. 

These are my small tips for life, to be happier, less fearable, less stressful, and more comfortable with myself and around world. And finally these are the ways I use for letting myself having flowers in my life; I mean fulfill it with the positive colorful moments.