The Three R's In Relationships

 How many of us want a cheat sheet on how to create the perfect relationship? All of us right ? But in actuality there is no perfect relationship. Fortunately for us hopeless romantics there is a somewhat perfect recipe. A healthy relationship can be like cooking. Every ingredient plays an important role in the over all outcome of the finished meal. But,  before I spill the beans, I want you to think about what makes you personally happy in a relationship. Is it security? Is it feeling understood? What creates that intimacy for you? During the course of my research I noticed that a lot of people of various age groups, genuinely feel better in relationships when their partner wants to know  how to make them happy. How can one achieve this? Honestly by just asking questions. Well being open minded can help and thorough communication. You don’t necessarily have to finish each other’s sentences to know your partners needs and desires. You just have to get in tune with that person be receptive to your partners expression of you and around you.

 Ninety percent of people believe half of us experience a toxic relationship at least once during the course of our lives. Being able to recognize a potentially toxic relationship will give you an advantage. who doesn't want an advantage in dating? After all it can be tricky sometimes. Stoney Brook University researchers did a study by telephone in 2007, that study showed that most amongst three hundred callers where closer to their partner if they thought about them regular when apart. If someone in your life always considers your time, your comfort, and makes an effort to show you how they feel thats a special feeling. You'll think about that person often. You'll even want to go the extra mile to reciprocate that special feeling. Reciprocity is so Important in a romantic relationship. No one wants to feel like they're doing all the work and not benefiting in any way. That can drain your partner and make them less inclined to hone in on your interests and needs. Business Insider reported that 56% of married couples in America found it meaningful when their significant other split chores/ house work fifty fifty. It's not only the thought that counts here, but the action as well. It's definatley a turn on to see your man cooking and cleaning right ?  Dating in 2021 doesn't have to be hard.

 Let's get into why though. I know social media makes it easier and faster to meet and talk to people all over the world, but is your approach up to par? How about your listening skills? Getting to know a person requires you to listen to them. That's how you build a connection. Find out what their passions are, what makes them excited, what makes them uncomfortable, what makes them content? This is how you learn to be receptive. By showing interest in a potential partner beyond how they can help you, love you or better you. Its mores along the lines of how do I understand this person, so I can know how to love this person. You'll figure out what upsets them and encourages them simply by spending time with them and listening. Dating is an experience reciprocation and restiveness will enhance your dating experience. Each of us have to find our balance with ourselves and our relationships. This occurs by knowing our role and being eager to better ourselves, for ourselves. Before we even think about being better for someone else. we need to be content with who we are and who we are becoming.

 Learning to respect your growth, your path, your time and interests first hand will help you do so for your partner. We all want to be respected, especially by our partners. We are vulnerable with our partners and that leaves a door open for insecurities to come creeping in. We don't want or need a tainted dating experience because of misplaced emotions or lack of communication. Insecurity can surface when there is a lack of trust with our partner or even fear that our partner won't understand something about us. No relationship is hardship free, but we can make it easier for ourselves. Respect your partners time and boundaries once you get to know them without letting go of yourself, If both partners are respectful of each other's wants and needs thats and example of reciprocity right there. Of course sacrifice may be involved sometimes but learning your partner is apart of the ravishing recipe. What is the ravishing recipe? Reciprocity, Reactiveness, and Respect. We live in a time where people move quickly in relationships and then end just as quick as they start. People want to be accommodated. We want to be understood and accepted and if that doesn't happen at the snap of a finger some of us can get irritable. 

 I find it interesting what we are and aren't willing to tolerate from different people. In my experience the level of intimacy really is affected by how close you are to someone mentally and emotionally. A connection is vital for a ravishing relationship to come to be. when we feel a connection to someone we will be more inclined to do what brings them cheer. Also we'll want to help them relax when they're overwhelmed and stressed. We think about their well being and how we can contribute. That's where applying the three R's come in. Be receptive to your partners needs. Be a receiver. Listen to understand, listen with an intention to be more encouraging and positive. Treat them with respect. Hold yourself accountable when you're wrong. Apologize when you misunderstand or make a mistake. Loving someone may feel easy. Cooking can seem easy once you know what you're doing right? Wouldn't it be nice if we could just open up a recipe book for relationships? I would definitely flip to the chapter telling me step by step how to be intimate with my partner. For now i'll refer to my three R's to navigate my dating experience. I hope this is helpful for you. 

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