"Fool Me Twice" Photo Series That Has Gained The Attention Of Many On Instagram
If you follow Alisha Boe (13 Reasons Why) or Noah Centineo (To All the Boys I've Loved Before) on Instagram, you may have noticed them share some photos of the two of them as lovers from a photo series called "Fool Me Twice." The series was inspired by artist Sarah Bahbah's own reflection of how her anxious attachment style affected her relationships and how it affected her during her relationships with people who had more of an avoidant attachment style.
This series, for good reason, has gone viral and really struck a chord with people all over the world. For some, this has really been eye-opening because they are either seeing themselves or their significant other's type of attachment style and it's bringing to light how your attachment style affects your relationships. This series is really resonating with a lot of Sarah's followers. Some have said this series has come at the perfect time because of the relationships they are in and how they can relate so much. I, myself, have never really heard about "attachment styles," so I found this series to be incredibly interesting and also relatable. I realized that I have more of an anxious attachment style when I'm first in a relationship but once I feel "safe" in that relationship, I tend to have more of a secure attachment style.
Attachment Styles
As I mentioned earlier, I had never heard of attachment styles before this series and what exactly they are. So, naturally, I went to research what these attachment styles were and found some interesting information.
There are four attachment styles:
- Secure
- Dismissive Avoidant
- Anxious-preoccupied
- Fearful-avoidant
What is attachment?
Attachment is the bond you form with your primary caregiver and it affects the way you handle relationships as well as how you find, keep and end relationships.
Secure Attachment Style
If you're someone with a secure attachment style, your parents were most likely securely attached people as well. You were happy to be with Mom and Dad but knew you could explore and do things on your own as well and felt comfortable doing so.
Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment Style
If you're someone with an anxious attachment style, your primary caregiver most likely responded to your needs as an infant/child inconsistently. This means that they would engage with you as a child and respond quickly to your needs some of the time, while being distracted or unavailable at other times. This inconsistency causes you to be anxious and needing reassurance in relationships.
Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
If you're someone with a dismissive avoidant attachment style, your primary caregiver was most likely not very aware of your needs as a child. Since your needs were never directly met, you were forced to self-soothe and emotionally distance yourself. In relationships, this causes you to be emotionally unavailable, avoid intimacy and crave independence.
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
If you're someone with a fearful avoidant attachment style, your primary caregiver most likely had unresolved trauma that they were dealing with at the time of your infancy. In some cases, your parent may have been a source of fear and comfort which triggers the confusion and disorientation you feel about the relationships you are in now. In other cases, your parent could have ignored or wasn't aware of your needs as an infant and their erratic behavior could have been frightening and/or traumatic for you.
Fool Me Twice
This photo series reflects the relationship where one person has an anxious attachment style and the other has an avoidant attachment style and how toxic and tumultuous it can be. When the series first started, we really had no idea which attachment style belonged to whom. If you read the comments for each post you usually found people asking who was the avoidant one and who was the anxious one. The series has been running for about a month now. It was supposed to only last the month of April but because of the positively vast response to the series, Sarah extended it and I'm so glad she did!
This was such an interesting topic to turn into a photo series. The actors captured perfectly the anxious-avoidant relationship. The comments also offered a lot of insight; people commenting about their attachment styles and how it correlated with the photos shown and what goes on in the mind of someone with that attachment style. This series really is eye-opening and thought provoking and one that I think people should take a look at and explore and research. You really get a good look at who you are and how you came to form a particular attachment style.
Here are a just a few photos from the series. Check it out on Instagram!
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