Is Monogamy Sustainable?

Monogamy, the word that is often at favorable odds in the dating world and seldom on opposing odds, until "infidelity" is added into the equation. To the opposing some that see it as a defiance to human nature. Most of which question it "Is it natural?" Or "Has it been hardwired into humans?" Or "Is it a part of evolution?"

 

  

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

This discussion has given most individuals a reason to reevaluate their dating lifestyle, whether the standards of dating were acting as restraints to restrict them from acting upon their human nature- being polygamous or liberal in their relationships. This was also put into the limelight as one of the evolutionary theories, that monogamy was inherent and learned behavior as a result of evolution. So much so that it is considered as a constrainent over something that is as flexible as mating.

However monogamy is not the problem, understanding variety and preference is. The preference and ability to remain monogamous varies in individuals. While some are able to maintain long-term relationships, others may prefer freely and more open relationships.

Practicing monogamy doesn't not come from an attempt to instill devotion and loyalty, although those are not issues as well. It is rooted from the fear of loss of intimacy. To lose a familiar remark or a sentiment, particularly to someone else.

Ultimatley the intimacy can be maintained even in an open relationship. How so?

By allowing your significant other to you give them the liberty to return to you.

On an episode of Big Think on YouTube, psychologists that are well within their expertise were featured on the panel to lend the audience a different set of perspective to conclude as to why monogamy is closely impossible to obtain amongst humans. One psychologist Christopher Ryan, shared an intriguing insight by comparing a monogamous relationship to repetitively consuming or doing the same thing timelously, and that a person would most likely grow bored and irritable. Just as how humans become bored, irritable and weary of a routine, a monogamous relationship is similar to that. You are routinely contacting and sleeping with the same individual. People in general love variety and being exposed to different people that bring out different versions to themselves. This is one of the reasons why people fail in their pursuit of monogamy. 

An individual that only gets exposed to one thing may ultimately become curious of another- a step away from an illicit affair. Which wouldn't have been considered as such with acceptance of something that is inevitable.

Although this may not always be the case, other individuals are selectively monogamou

s and only choose to be monogamous for the "one".

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