5 Reasons Why I'm Not Afraid Of Turning 30

Don't feel old just yet!

As I am writing this, I'm freshly 27.

I've hit the last third of my 20's and it got me wondering about the not-so-distant future when I hit 30.

And to be honest, I'm not sweating it a bit.

When I was a teenager, I would look ahead to my 20's and anticipate what reaching 30 would be like.

And it scared me half to death.

I would fantasize about the overweight and sweaty 30-year-old me and cringe. 

It might have been an "I never want to grow up" sort of mentality that was negating me to look at the 4th decade of my life anything except a downhill spiral to mediocrity. 

Now, just shy of 3 years till I hit the 30 mark, I'm not afraid but excited.

Here are 5 reasons why I'm not afraid of turning 30 and so shouldn't you.

1. Modern Day Ages Keep Climbing

Life expectancy has more than doubled since the 1800s bringing it up to 78 years on average nowadays. That means the milestone of 30 years old keeps getting younger.

This 200-year health revolution means that, what was almost the average end life, is now less than middle age. 

With our generations getting an extended lease on life, looking at 30 is less of a daunting thought.

2. Your Brain Just Stopped Developing

As I look at it, your 20's are basically you still being a teenager except you have to pay rent and bills. 

Our brains are still developing well past our teenage years, as it finishes at the age of 25.

I graduated college when I just turned 24. That age, for me, was a huge change. I was moving to a different city, I had to let go of past relationships, and I was trying to get my foot in the door with my career and passions.

I felt my way of thinking mold and take shape this year until I hit 25. Things that were fun to me before this age seemed arbitrary and even irresponsible. I started to think about my future more and began to save money more aggressively.

At the age of 30, your brain has only been fully developed for 5 years.  

This might spell the transition from young adulthood to full-blown adulthood,  but this doesn't mean you're old just yet.

3. You Know and Want Better for Yourself

Your late teens and early 20's can breed insecurity for anyone that age. With insecurity shows people willing to take advantage of you.

Whether it's because of naivety, being empathetic to a fault, or too much patience, other people can see this in you and take advantage.

When I just turned 20, I was in a relationship with a toxic person. I'll spare you the details, but the last 3 months of the relationship were some of the most tumultuous of my life.

I gave my partner the benefit of the doubt too many times. "This time will be different," I thought. But nothing changed and I kept getting hurt more and more.

It wasn't until I broke free from the vicious cycle did I see the emotional manipulation beset on me.

Your early-mid 20s will show some hard lessons, but they are just that, lessons. These will collect and compile over this decade. It will prepare you for the rest of your life as you may finally realize just how you should be treated in any kind of relationship.

4. Financial Stability May Be Getting Closer

You're 30s Will Have You Feeding Your Piggy Bank!
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I know how it goes, your early 20s, even mid-20s, can spell TERROR when it comes to your bank account. 

Having to barely scrape by on low-quality food while budgeting every single penny is suffocating.

To make matters worse, college tuition is one of the biggest investments you'll ever make, and entities will give you a loan at outrageously high interest to pay for school.

You may get out of school, only to find no jobs in your field are currently hiring and those student loans may be creeping down your neck, all while still having to pay rent and other bills.

But there's hope in a lot of cases. 

Everyone's path is different, and therefore, may be increasingly harder depending; but, generally, the closer you get to your 30s, the better sense of money you (hopefully) attain.

When I graduated college and moved to a different city, I looked for a restaurant job right away, since I had to pay bills still. It was hard for me to look for opportunities with my degree.

For the first 6 months, I was still afloat until it came crashing down.

My mother wasn't able to help me with my car payments and caused me to get behind on payments by a few months, I failed to put my loans in forbearance, and my roommates and I had to suddenly move less than a year after moving to the new city because of a bedbug problem.

I looked one day and my credit was shot and most of my money was gone with bills and loans still left to pay.

That's when I turned it around. I made budgets and got my bills in order. I worked long hours for the better part of a year and a half.

I came out the other end with all but student loans left to pay and a saving that increases every week. I broke out of the cycle my family has been in for multiple generations and now I'm even investing too.

As I said, it's different for everyone, but getting closer to your 30s shifts your perspective on money and finances greatly.

5. Your Goals and Dreams Come to Fruition

You Can Almost Reach Your Dreams
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We all have big dreams when we're little kids. Our dreams can seem as big as the universe itself albeit not as realistic.

But some of us hold on to particular dreams past high school into our twenties. While you're closer to achieve those goals to start this decade, they still may be a bit fuzzy.

When I found out what I was really going to pursue in school, I took the reigns. I was involved in multiple clubs and got good grades to end my college career.

I graduated with a degree in English and a Minor in Mass Communications. I did some writing on my own and I was making music like a full-time job, but I wasn't getting paid like it.

I came to the realization, I actually didn't know what I wanted to do for a career.

After a few years of working in restaurants and construction, I finally found a pathway to what I really wanted to do in my life. I started to pursue that with little steps.

Now I'm writing for three different websites and even getting paid for one of them. My career outlook improves with every word I type. 3 years ago, I could see what it looked like, but as I'm closer to 30, it's clear as day.

This has made me excited to reach 30, as I'm confident my career will be fulfilling and fruitful by then.

Don't Feel Old Just Yet!

30 may seem daunting, but if you're able to pull yourself by your bootstraps and start taking care of your body and mind, the rest will follow.

"30 is the new 20!" is a cliche, but carries a lot of weight if you're on the right path.

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Opinions and Perspectives

Reading this at 31 and can confirm everything gets clearer with age.

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Anyone else feel like their 20s went by way too fast? Still processing it all.

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The career path revelation is so accurate. Finally finding my way at 29.

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Your early 20s sound exactly like mine. Glad to know I'm not alone in this journey.

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Found myself nodding along to every point. Especially about knowing your worth.

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Currently in that exact situation with student loans and entry-level jobs. Hope it gets better.

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Nice to see someone addressing the anxiety around turning 30. Society puts too much pressure on this number.

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Agree with most points except financial stability. That's getting harder for our generation.

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So true about knowing what you want. No more settling in relationships or jobs.

7

Started my dream career at 31. Sometimes it takes longer to figure things out.

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Been there with the credit issues. Took me three years to fix mine but it's possible.

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The point about modern life expectancy is spot on. We really need to update our concept of age.

1

Actually feeling more myself approaching 30 than I ever did in my early 20s.

2

This resonates so much. Finally started therapy at 28 and understanding myself better.

7

Love the message but reality is often more complicated than just pulling yourself up by your bootstraps.

5

Feel like the article downplays the biological clock aspect for women wanting kids.

6

True about brain development. Looking back at 23-year-old me makes me cringe sometimes.

2

Interesting perspective but seems a bit privileged. Not everyone has the luxury of career choices.

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Currently 26 and feeling this so much. Starting to care less about others opinions already.

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Can't relate to the financial stability part. Student loans will follow me to my grave.

7

Personally found my calling at 31. Sometimes it takes longer and that's okay.

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The toxic relationship part really hit home. Spent too many years trying to fix someone who didn't want to change.

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My 30s have been way better than my 20s so far. More money, more confidence, better relationships.

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Really enjoyed the honest take on career development. Sometimes it takes time to find your path.

7

I'm turning 30 next month and this calmed my anxiety about it. Thank you!

8

Wish someone had told me earlier that my 20s were for learning and mistakes. Would have stressed less.

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The financial part hits different when you're from a low-income background. Still playing catch up at 29.

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You're right about goals becoming clearer. Finally starting to see what I really want in life.

4

Amazing how different our 20s can be. Some friends already have kids and houses, while I'm still figuring things out.

7

This matches my experience perfectly. Life gets so much better when you stop caring what others think.

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Not sure I agree with 30 being young, but I appreciate the positive perspective.

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The part about knowing your worth really resonates. Took me years to learn how to set proper boundaries.

8

I needed to read this today. Been having a quarter-life crisis at 28.

7

Your credit recovery story gives me hope. Currently working on rebuilding mine at 26.

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Love the optimistic take but let's be real about the pressure society puts on women approaching 30.

6

The financial stability part really depends on your field. Tech industry? Maybe. Arts? Good luck.

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Reading this at 24 and feeling better about the chaos in my life right now. Maybe it's just part of the journey.

7

Your point about brain development explains why I made such questionable decisions in college.

8

Not to be negative, but 30 is definitely when my metabolism slowed down. Start those healthy habits now!

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You made some great points about learning from past relationships. Wish I had read this in my early 20s!

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Must be nice having your career figured out by 27. I'm still trying to decide what I want to do with my life.

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Just turned 30 last month and can confirm all of this. The clarity of mind is amazing compared to my early 20s.

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I appreciate how the article acknowledges everyone's path is different. Too many people try to put timelines on success.

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The student loan struggle is real. Been paying mine for 7 years and barely made a dent in the principal.

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Honestly, I'm more excited about my 30s than my 20s ever made me. Finally know who I am and what I want.

8

Interesting article but I think it glosses over the pressure of not having things figured out by 30. That's what scares me most.

6

That part about modern life expectancy is so true. My grandmother considers 30 middle-aged, but times have changed so much.

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I found my 20s way more stressful than my early 30s. You really do gain more confidence and stop caring about trivial things.

2

My experience has been totally different. I felt more lost at 27 than I did at 22. Anyone else feel this way?

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Speak for yourself about financial stability. I'm 29 and still living paycheck to paycheck despite having a decent job.

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Starting to think 30 might not be so bad after all. This article really helped put things in perspective for me.

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The brain development point is fascinating. I never knew we weren't fully developed until 25. Makes so much sense looking back at some of my decisions!

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Actually your knees cracking has nothing to do with age. I'm 23 and mine do the same. It's more about exercise and staying active.

3

I disagree about 30 being young. I'm feeling every bit of it approaching fast. My knees already crack when I stand up!

5

The financial stability point hits home. I'm 28 now and finally feeling like I'm getting my money situation under control. Those early 20s were rough!

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I really relate to the part about toxic relationships in your early 20s. Took me until 26 to finally understand my own worth and stop accepting less than I deserve.

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