Why You Don't Need To Seek Approval Anymore?

Instead of watering someone else's grass you should be more worried about why yours isn't growing.

In this world of fashion, trends, and beauty the question that always seems to enter minds is what's inn? This society's obsession with looks and beauty has been ongoing for generations.  Many people tend to miss out on life because they're always breaking their backs to fit in. Doing anything they can to make sure they don't miss out on what's new. This isn't an article that's going to praise people for being natural and not doing anything to their bodies. 

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I'm an advocate for people making their own choices when it comes to their bodies, whether it's makeup, piercings, or plastic surgery. This article is about people that feel like they can't think for themselves without validation. Needing someone to tell them how to style their hair, what clothes will help them fit in, and what eyeshadow will make people like them. When you have to convince others to do what you like to do, it is when you need to sit down and ask yourself why. Why is someone else's opinion more important than mine?

This generation looks up to celebrities and Instagram famous people. Consistently living through other people and waiting for what they'll do next. Don't get me wrong it's nothing wrong with wondering what Rihanna will wear next. Her fashion taste is out of this world! It's nothing wrong with feeling inspired or even copying a few of her outfits.

What's wrong is feeling like you have no sense of purpose if she decides to disappear from social media. If you find yourself feeling lost or hopeless because you have no one to tell you what to do with yourself then you need to practice self-love.

A lot of people in this generation struggle with depression and anxiety from trying so hard to separate their own identity and someone else's identity that they're trying to impersonate. If people put this same amount of time into working on themselves and embracing who they are then the depression rate wouldn't be so high.

"More than 264 million people suffer from depression worldwide."

                                                                                    - singlecare

I'm not oblivious to the fact that all causes of depression don't come from social media. Coming from someone who has dealt with depression, and anxiety I know that it can come from internally. It can go from insecurities to overthinking and not wanting to get out of bed in the morning. 

Regardless of what you're going through, taking time for yourself to understand your wants, needs, and sense of character goes a long way. Speaking encouraging words and exchanging your negative thoughts into positive words of affirmation helps.

Also, remember that it's no need to be so caught up in someone else's life when you have more than enough room on your own. It's always room for development, and it's no need to rush when you have your whole life ahead of you no matter your age. Make your own decisions and follow your intuition. The grass isn't always greener on the other side it could be from Costco.

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