Why You Don't Need To Seek Approval Anymore?

Instead of watering someone else's grass you should be more worried about why yours isn't growing.
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In this world of fashion, trends, and beauty the question that always seems to enter minds is what's inn? This society's obsession with looks and beauty has been ongoing for generations.  Many people tend to miss out on life because they're always breaking their backs to fit in. Doing anything they can to make sure they don't miss out on what's new. This isn't an article that's going to praise people for being natural and not doing anything to their bodies. 

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I'm an advocate for people making their own choices when it comes to their bodies, whether it's makeup, piercings, or plastic surgery. This article is about people that feel like they can't think for themselves without validation. Needing someone to tell them how to style their hair, what clothes will help them fit in, and what eyeshadow will make people like them. When you have to convince others to do what you like to do, it is when you need to sit down and ask yourself why. Why is someone else's opinion more important than mine?

This generation looks up to celebrities and Instagram famous people. Consistently living through other people and waiting for what they'll do next. Don't get me wrong it's nothing wrong with wondering what Rihanna will wear next. Her fashion taste is out of this world! It's nothing wrong with feeling inspired or even copying a few of her outfits.

What's wrong is feeling like you have no sense of purpose if she decides to disappear from social media. If you find yourself feeling lost or hopeless because you have no one to tell you what to do with yourself then you need to practice self-love.

A lot of people in this generation struggle with depression and anxiety from trying so hard to separate their own identity and someone else's identity that they're trying to impersonate. If people put this same amount of time into working on themselves and embracing who they are then the depression rate wouldn't be so high.

"More than 264 million people suffer from depression worldwide."

                                                                                    - singlecare

I'm not oblivious to the fact that all causes of depression don't come from social media. Coming from someone who has dealt with depression, and anxiety I know that it can come from internally. It can go from insecurities to overthinking and not wanting to get out of bed in the morning. 

Regardless of what you're going through, taking time for yourself to understand your wants, needs, and sense of character goes a long way. Speaking encouraging words and exchanging your negative thoughts into positive words of affirmation helps.

Also, remember that it's no need to be so caught up in someone else's life when you have more than enough room on your own. It's always room for development, and it's no need to rush when you have your whole life ahead of you no matter your age. Make your own decisions and follow your intuition. The grass isn't always greener on the other side it could be from Costco.

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TarynJ commented TarynJ 3 years ago

Making peace with not always being on trend.

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EvanInspires commented EvanInspires 3 years ago

Learning to trust my instincts instead of following the crowd.

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Jack commented Jack 3 years ago

Starting to see how much energy I waste seeking validation.

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RickyT commented RickyT 3 years ago

The journey to self-acceptance is ongoing but worth it.

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LostInTime commented LostInTime 3 years ago

Need to remind myself of this message whenever I feel insecure.

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Nakamura_Narrative commented Nakamura_Narrative 3 years ago

Finally understanding that my opinion matters most.

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Brielle_Stardust commented Brielle_Stardust 3 years ago

The freedom in making your own choices is underrated.

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ShawnLaughs commented ShawnLaughs 3 years ago

Time to stop comparing myself to perfectly curated feeds.

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ToriXO commented ToriXO 3 years ago

Feeling inspired to make more independent choices after reading this.

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GravityRush commented GravityRush 3 years ago

The article really puts things into perspective about personal identity.

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Vera_Bennett commented Vera_Bennett 3 years ago

Working on building self-trust instead of seeking constant approval.

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Bruni_Blog commented Bruni_Blog 3 years ago

Can relate to feeling lost without social media validation.

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Fienberg_Feature commented Fienberg_Feature 3 years ago

Taking baby steps towards being more confident in my choices.

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VibrantVitality commented VibrantVitality 3 years ago

The anxiety of posting without asking for opinions first is real.

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Align-And-Shine_24 commented Align-And-Shine_24 3 years ago

Realizing that my worth isn't determined by likes and followers.

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McArdle_Memo commented McArdle_Memo 3 years ago

Wonder how different social media would be if everyone read this.

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OptimistDaily commented OptimistDaily 3 years ago

The message about self-love is powerful. Working on that myself.

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Sierra_Twinkle commented Sierra_Twinkle 3 years ago

Starting to appreciate my unique style instead of copying others.

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Mindful-Beauty_24 commented Mindful-Beauty_24 4 years ago

Think we all needed this wake-up call about validation seeking.

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AlienChronicles commented AlienChronicles 4 years ago

Never realized how much seeking approval was affecting my mental health.

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Victoria commented Victoria 4 years ago

The struggle between authenticity and acceptance is real.

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Costa_Correspondence commented Costa_Correspondence 4 years ago

This should be required reading for anyone with social media.

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Dahlia99 commented Dahlia99 4 years ago

Been following my intuition more lately and it feels amazing.

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Roberts_Reportage commented Roberts_Reportage 4 years ago

The part about separating your identity from others really spoke to me.

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Faith_Dawn commented Faith_Dawn 4 years ago

It's liberating when you finally stop caring about others' approval.

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Lucy commented Lucy 4 years ago

We need more conversations about authentic self-expression.

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WellnessWarrior commented WellnessWarrior 4 years ago

Sometimes I catch myself wanting to buy something just because an influencer has it.

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HenryMartinez commented HenryMartinez 4 years ago

The article makes a good point about not rushing personal development.

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Jocelyn_Blossom commented Jocelyn_Blossom 4 years ago

Learning to love yourself in a world of filters and perfect posts is challenging.

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FutureWaveX commented FutureWaveX 4 years ago

I'm sharing this with my friends. We all need this reminder sometimes.

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Active-Soul_07 commented Active-Soul_07 4 years ago

The connection between social media and depression needs more attention.

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ConsciousChoices commented ConsciousChoices 4 years ago

Finding your own style is a journey. Took me years to stop copying others.

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DigitalMonk commented DigitalMonk 4 years ago

Just realized how much time I spend asking others for their opinion on my choices.

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Corn_Coverage commented Corn_Coverage 4 years ago

The pressure to keep up with trends is financially and mentally draining.

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Priscilla-Foster commented Priscilla-Foster 4 years ago

Wish schools would teach this kind of self-awareness and confidence building.

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Marie_Whisper commented Marie_Whisper 4 years ago

This article came at the perfect time. Been feeling lost in the social media shuffle lately.

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Ariana_Light commented Ariana_Light 4 years ago

Started unfollowing accounts that make me feel bad about myself. Best decision ever.

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Brooks_Bulletin commented Brooks_Bulletin 4 years ago

The line about having room in your own life really hit me. Why am I so invested in others' lives?

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MoonlitMystery commented MoonlitMystery 4 years ago

My teenage daughter needs to read this. She's so caught up in following trends.

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MidnightGhost commented MidnightGhost 4 years ago

Finally someone said it! We need to stop living through celebrities and influencers.

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OrganicFuel commented OrganicFuel 4 years ago

Love the message but easier said than done in today's social media driven world.

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Jasmine commented Jasmine 4 years ago

Been working on this in therapy. It's hard to break the habit of seeking approval.

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Phoebe-Harrington commented Phoebe-Harrington 4 years ago

The anxiety of not fitting in is real. But at what cost are we trying to belong?

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AngelinaS commented AngelinaS 4 years ago

This reminds me of how I used to screenshot every celebrity outfit to copy. Now I mix their style with my own.

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Stella commented Stella 4 years ago

Never thought about it this way before. Maybe it's time to trust my own instincts more.

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FireDragonX commented FireDragonX 4 years ago

Social media isn't the enemy, our relationship with it is what needs work.

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FutureGhost commented FutureGhost 4 years ago

The part about speaking encouraging words to yourself really resonated with me.

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ParallelExplorer commented ParallelExplorer 4 years ago

Being inspired by others is fine but losing yourself in the process isn't worth it.

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TobyD commented TobyD 4 years ago

I wonder how many people actually enjoy what they're wearing versus what they think they should wear.

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SyntheticSoul commented SyntheticSoul 4 years ago

The article nails it about the exhaustion of trying to keep up with trends. I'm tired of changing my style every season.

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Xavier_1984 commented Xavier_1984 4 years ago

My journey to self-acceptance started when I stopped asking others what I should wear or how I should look.

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Lucy_Hall commented Lucy_Hall 4 years ago

The point about depression rates is interesting but I think there are many other factors at play.

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Haberman_Headlines commented Haberman_Headlines 4 years ago

Anyone else feel relieved when they take social media breaks? It's like a weight lifted off my shoulders.

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Amelia-Taylor commented Amelia-Taylor 4 years ago

It's refreshing to see an article that doesn't shame people for their choices while encouraging authenticity.

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InnerPeaceUnlocked commented InnerPeaceUnlocked 4 years ago

The comparison trap is real. I'm guilty of spending hours scrolling through perfect Instagram feeds.

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ElowenH commented ElowenH 4 years ago

Learning to trust my own judgment has been a game changer. Wish I'd read something like this years ago.

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Kelly_Keynotes commented Kelly_Keynotes 4 years ago

I've noticed my younger sister constantly asking her friends if her outfit looks good enough for Instagram. It's concerning.

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ParkerJ commented ParkerJ 4 years ago

The article makes valid points but let's be real, social media is unavoidable in today's world.

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CodePhantom commented CodePhantom 4 years ago

Just deleted several social media apps after reading this. Time to focus on my own journey.

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SilentStorm commented SilentStorm 4 years ago

Sometimes I wonder if we're raising a generation that can't make decisions without consulting Instagram first.

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IvoryS commented IvoryS 4 years ago

My therapist recently brought up similar points about seeking validation. This article puts it into perspective.

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SunnySoulShine commented SunnySoulShine 4 years ago

I love that this isn't just another article preaching against makeup or fashion choices.

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SienaM commented SienaM 4 years ago

The mental health aspect is crucial. We don't talk enough about how social media affects our self-worth.

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QuantumDreamer commented QuantumDreamer 4 years ago

I find myself constantly checking likes and comments on my posts. This article made me question why I care so much.

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SilentVoyager commented SilentVoyager 4 years ago

True, but there's a difference between feeling connected and feeling dependent on others for validation.

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Holly_Dew commented Holly_Dew 4 years ago

Actually disagree with some points here. Following trends helps me feel connected to my generation.

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GlowModeOn commented GlowModeOn 4 years ago

We're so caught up in following trends that we forget to develop our own authentic style.

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Ophelia_Dawn commented Ophelia_Dawn 4 years ago

The part about not needing someone else's approval for personal style choices really struck a chord with me.

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WholeBodyHealth commented WholeBodyHealth 4 years ago

I appreciate how the article acknowledges that it's okay to be inspired by celebrities while maintaining your own identity.

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Dove_Whimsy commented Dove_Whimsy 4 years ago

This hit close to home. I spent years trying to copy influencers before realizing I was losing myself in the process.

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ZenAndTonic commented ZenAndTonic 4 years ago

The depression statistics are eye-opening. I had no idea it affected so many people worldwide.

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MidnightRider commented MidnightRider 4 years ago

While I agree with the overall message, I think social media can also be a source of inspiration when used mindfully. It's all about balance.

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ZenMode_Activated_2024 commented ZenMode_Activated_2024 4 years ago

The Costco grass line at the end made me laugh! But seriously, great points about not living through others.

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Lang_Ledger commented Lang_Ledger 4 years ago

I really resonated with this article. Been struggling with constantly seeking validation on social media lately. It's exhausting trying to keep up with trends.

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