Why You Don't Need To Seek Approval Anymore?
In this world of fashion, trends, and beauty the question that always seems to enter minds is what's inn? This society's obsession with looks and beauty has been ongoing for generations. Many people tend to miss out on life because they're always breaking their backs to fit in. Doing anything they can to make sure they don't miss out on what's new. This isn't an article that's going to praise people for being natural and not doing anything to their bodies.
I'm an advocate for people making their own choices when it comes to their bodies, whether it's makeup, piercings, or plastic surgery. This article is about people that feel like they can't think for themselves without validation. Needing someone to tell them how to style their hair, what clothes will help them fit in, and what eyeshadow will make people like them. When you have to convince others to do what you like to do, it is when you need to sit down and ask yourself why. Why is someone else's opinion more important than mine?
This generation looks up to celebrities and Instagram famous people. Consistently living through other people and waiting for what they'll do next. Don't get me wrong it's nothing wrong with wondering what Rihanna will wear next. Her fashion taste is out of this world! It's nothing wrong with feeling inspired or even copying a few of her outfits.
What's wrong is feeling like you have no sense of purpose if she decides to disappear from social media. If you find yourself feeling lost or hopeless because you have no one to tell you what to do with yourself then you need to practice self-love.
A lot of people in this generation struggle with depression and anxiety from trying so hard to separate their own identity and someone else's identity that they're trying to impersonate. If people put this same amount of time into working on themselves and embracing who they are then the depression rate wouldn't be so high.
"More than 264 million people suffer from depression worldwide."
- singlecare
I'm not oblivious to the fact that all causes of depression don't come from social media. Coming from someone who has dealt with depression, and anxiety I know that it can come from internally. It can go from insecurities to overthinking and not wanting to get out of bed in the morning.
Regardless of what you're going through, taking time for yourself to understand your wants, needs, and sense of character goes a long way. Speaking encouraging words and exchanging your negative thoughts into positive words of affirmation helps.
Also, remember that it's no need to be so caught up in someone else's life when you have more than enough room on your own. It's always room for development, and it's no need to rush when you have your whole life ahead of you no matter your age. Make your own decisions and follow your intuition. The grass isn't always greener on the other side it could be from Costco.
Opinions and Perspectives
Never realized how much seeking approval was affecting my mental health.
The part about separating your identity from others really spoke to me.
Sometimes I catch myself wanting to buy something just because an influencer has it.
Learning to love yourself in a world of filters and perfect posts is challenging.
The connection between social media and depression needs more attention.
Finding your own style is a journey. Took me years to stop copying others.
Just realized how much time I spend asking others for their opinion on my choices.
The pressure to keep up with trends is financially and mentally draining.
Wish schools would teach this kind of self-awareness and confidence building.
This article came at the perfect time. Been feeling lost in the social media shuffle lately.
Started unfollowing accounts that make me feel bad about myself. Best decision ever.
The line about having room in your own life really hit me. Why am I so invested in others' lives?
My teenage daughter needs to read this. She's so caught up in following trends.
Finally someone said it! We need to stop living through celebrities and influencers.
Love the message but easier said than done in today's social media driven world.
Been working on this in therapy. It's hard to break the habit of seeking approval.
The anxiety of not fitting in is real. But at what cost are we trying to belong?
This reminds me of how I used to screenshot every celebrity outfit to copy. Now I mix their style with my own.
Never thought about it this way before. Maybe it's time to trust my own instincts more.
Social media isn't the enemy, our relationship with it is what needs work.
The part about speaking encouraging words to yourself really resonated with me.
Being inspired by others is fine but losing yourself in the process isn't worth it.
I wonder how many people actually enjoy what they're wearing versus what they think they should wear.
The article nails it about the exhaustion of trying to keep up with trends. I'm tired of changing my style every season.
My journey to self-acceptance started when I stopped asking others what I should wear or how I should look.
The point about depression rates is interesting but I think there are many other factors at play.
Anyone else feel relieved when they take social media breaks? It's like a weight lifted off my shoulders.
It's refreshing to see an article that doesn't shame people for their choices while encouraging authenticity.
The comparison trap is real. I'm guilty of spending hours scrolling through perfect Instagram feeds.
Learning to trust my own judgment has been a game changer. Wish I'd read something like this years ago.
I've noticed my younger sister constantly asking her friends if her outfit looks good enough for Instagram. It's concerning.
The article makes valid points but let's be real, social media is unavoidable in today's world.
Just deleted several social media apps after reading this. Time to focus on my own journey.
Sometimes I wonder if we're raising a generation that can't make decisions without consulting Instagram first.
My therapist recently brought up similar points about seeking validation. This article puts it into perspective.
I love that this isn't just another article preaching against makeup or fashion choices.
The mental health aspect is crucial. We don't talk enough about how social media affects our self-worth.
I find myself constantly checking likes and comments on my posts. This article made me question why I care so much.
True, but there's a difference between feeling connected and feeling dependent on others for validation.
Actually disagree with some points here. Following trends helps me feel connected to my generation.
We're so caught up in following trends that we forget to develop our own authentic style.
The part about not needing someone else's approval for personal style choices really struck a chord with me.
I appreciate how the article acknowledges that it's okay to be inspired by celebrities while maintaining your own identity.
This hit close to home. I spent years trying to copy influencers before realizing I was losing myself in the process.
The depression statistics are eye-opening. I had no idea it affected so many people worldwide.
While I agree with the overall message, I think social media can also be a source of inspiration when used mindfully. It's all about balance.
The Costco grass line at the end made me laugh! But seriously, great points about not living through others.
I really resonated with this article. Been struggling with constantly seeking validation on social media lately. It's exhausting trying to keep up with trends.