Are You Communicating The Right Way In Your Relationships?
On days when I sit by myself and reflect on the journey that life has been for the last 23 years, I realize there are a lot of questions that I carry within myself unknowingly. We as humans have the greatest gift of communication. We can express what we feel. The emotions that we experience and voicing our opinion on various matters.
With the evolution of technology and the development of communities, many new ways of communication have found their ways into our lives. Back in the day’s letters were the primary way people communicated with each other. Family, friends, and lovers waited for days, weeks, and sometimes even months from the loved ones that live hundreds of miles away from them. I am sure all of us have at some point in our lives sat down with our grandparents and listened to stories about their childhood.
One of the stories that have stuck with me over the years is that of my great aunt and great uncle. My uncle was deployed as a part of the Indian army to various camps all over the country back in the 1960s. My aunt resided in Chennai and looked after the family. My aunt would yearn for the handwritten letters that my uncle would send to her approximately once in 6 months. Their entire marriage and relationship for the 25 years that he was a part of the Indian army was based on these letters and the occasional visits that he made.
In today's world, we should consider ourselves to be blessed and gifted to have the technology of a smartphone that enables us to connect with anyone sitting in any corner of the world with a single tap. It lies in our hands how we use the technology available at our disposal to engage in more meaningful, long-lasting, and fruitful relationships with the people that we come across in different times of our lives.
There is no doubt the relationship between friends, among family members, and lovers heavily rely on trust, love, and mutual respect. Above all communication is key in every relationship. It can be an extremely hard task to always find the right words when bearing our soul and displaying our emotions towards others. I speak from personal experience when I say that I've found myself in a situation numerous times unable to find the right words to communicate what I'm feeling or when I wanted to be able to comfort someone else when they were going through a hard time.
As important as it is to gain someone’s trust and enable them to see the affection and the care that you have for them, it is also very important to be very careful of our choice of words when communicating with them. As the saying goes, “Words once uttered cannot be taken back.”
Having said this let me draw a comparison between relationships today and relationships back in the day. Let us take for example our grandparents’ generation. They were conditioned to believe that when something turns sour in your relationship you must try and fix it to the best of your abilities before you decide to give up on it.
However, today's generation does not function in the same way. I am sure most of us have witnessed a divorce and breakups among our friends or family invariably at some point in our life. I believe one of the key reasons for this is the approach that people have towards emotions and towards feelings in today's fast-paced world.
We place our ego and self-respect above empathy and kindness. All it takes is a little patience, love, and give and take nature to be able to understand what someone is going through. Lead with love. Lead with gratitude. Above all lead with an open heart and be willing to see someone for who they are beyond that single moment of a breakdown that they have. Trust me when I say this, there is nothing that cannot be solved with effective communication.
Get out of your phone, get out of your laptop, and dedicate time to understanding family and friends. Make the effort to sit down communicate. Talk about each other’s lives and their highs and lows. This will enable you to understand what someone else is going through. This guides us on how we can sympathize with them and give them the benefit of doubt and enable them to grow and heal from whatever has hurt them.
You would be surprised to know that we are not all quite different. We all face similar trauma at some point in our lives. Your way of dealing with it might not be their way and that is what makes us individuals with contrasting personalities.
It is extremely easy to spread and cultivate hate and resentment towards others. What we fail to realize is that we carry this burden with us moving forward in life. Harboring negative feelings for anyone in our minds and hearts will never bring us the Peace of Mind that we deserve at the end of the day. Wake up every morning and try to live each day with a little bit more sympathy a little bit more kindness.
You never know how much a small act of kindness on your behalf will impact someone else life. You may be the ray of sunshine and hope that they desperately needed to get through the day. Remember you receive what you give. The world could use a little bit of love right now. Be the change you want to see around you.
Opinions and Perspectives
Good reminder that meaningful relationships require real effort and time.
The point about different communication styles across generations is fascinating.
Started implementing some of these ideas and already seeing positive changes.
Love how the article emphasizes the importance of face-to-face interaction.
The article's message about personal growth through better communication is spot on.
Communication skills are like muscles. The more you work on them, the stronger they get.
Interesting how waiting for communication used to be normal. We're so impatient now.
The message about spreading kindness instead of hate is something we all need to remember.
I appreciate how the article addresses both sides of technology in relationships.
Love the suggestion about dedicated time for understanding family and friends.
Communication really is key. I've seen relationships fail from lack of it.
The idea that we all face similar struggles helps me be more understanding.
I've started leaving my phone in another room during family time. Game changer!
The article's point about trust and respect being fundamental is so important.
Been trying to be more mindful in my conversations lately. It's changing my relationships.
The comparison between generations made me appreciate both old and new ways of connecting.
I agree that modern technology can enhance relationships when used thoughtfully.
Finding the right words is hard, but the effort to communicate well is always worth it.
Just had a great conversation with my teenager without any phones present. It was wonderful.
The article's message about patience in relationships is something I needed to hear.
We could all use more meaningful conversations in our lives. Quality over quantity.
The point about ego versus empathy really makes you think about your priorities.
I've started writing in a journal to better understand my own communication patterns.
It's true that negative feelings affect us more than the person we're angry with.
My relationship improved when we started having regular face-to-face conversations without distractions.
I think we need both traditional and modern communication methods. Each has its place.
Been working on my communication skills and it's amazing how it affects all areas of life.
Love how the article talks about the impact of small acts of kindness. They really do add up.
The emphasis on patience in relationships is something our generation needs to hear.
I've started asking better questions in conversations. It makes such a difference in understanding others.
The part about harboring negative feelings really resonates. It's like carrying around unnecessary weight.
I've noticed my relationships improve when I focus on understanding rather than being understood.
The article's message about being the change is powerful. Starting with myself has made a real difference.
Anyone else feel like we've lost the art of conversation? I miss those long, meandering talks.
I'm trying to be more present in conversations. It's harder than it sounds!
The story about the military couple really puts our modern relationship complaints into perspective.
Technology isn't the problem, it's how we use it. I've had meaningful conversations through text too.
Being kind isn't always easy, but the article is right about how it affects our own peace of mind.
I find myself missing the anticipation of waiting for communication sometimes. Everything is so instant now.
The comparison between old and new communication styles really makes you think about what we've gained and lost.
I've started practicing active listening more. It's amazing how much you miss when you're just waiting for your turn to speak.
The article's point about fixing relationships reminds me of how quick we are to replace things these days.
Just tried having a deep conversation without any phones present. It was surprisingly refreshing!
Leading with an open heart isn't always easy, but it's worth it. I've seen it transform my relationships.
The article made me think about how I communicate with my kids. Need to put the phone down more often.
I think we need to find a balance between modern convenience and meaningful communication.
My parents have been married for 40 years and they still write little notes to each other. It's adorable.
The part about dedication to understanding others is crucial. We're often too busy to really listen.
I appreciate how the article acknowledges that different people handle emotions differently. It's not one-size-fits-all.
Has anyone else tried writing letters to their loved ones? I started doing it and the responses have been amazing.
The mention of getting out of your phone really hit home. I'm realizing how much screen time affects my relationships.
True that self-reflection is important, but I think the article oversimplifies some modern relationship challenges.
The article's point about spreading kindness resonates deeply. We never know how our words might impact someone.
I actually think technology has helped my long-distance relationship thrive. Video calls make such a difference.
The idea that we receive what we give is so true. I've found being more understanding has made others more understanding towards me.
I wonder if our grandchildren will look back at our text messages the way we look back at those old letters.
The comparison between generations is spot on. We do seem to give up more easily these days.
Working on communication in my marriage has made such a difference. We now have dedicated talk time every evening.
I've been trying to write more handwritten letters lately. There's something special about putting pen to paper.
We definitely need more empathy in today's world. It's too easy to forget there's a real person on the other end of that screen.
The article makes a good point about choosing words carefully. Once said, they can't be taken back.
I find it fascinating how relationships worked before technology. Must have required so much more patience and trust.
The fast-paced world we live in definitely affects how we handle relationships. We're too quick to give up sometimes.
It's interesting how the article points out that we all face similar traumas but deal with them differently. That's something worth remembering when judging others.
Love the suggestion about getting away from phones and laptops to have real conversations. I'm going to try implementing more phone-free family time.
My grandparents were married for 50 years and they always said communication was their secret. They really knew how to listen to each other.
I struggle with finding the right words too, especially during difficult conversations. Nice to know I'm not alone in this.
The part about leading with love and gratitude instead of ego really struck a chord with me. I've been guilty of letting pride get in the way of resolving conflicts.
Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by all the different ways people expect me to communicate. Messages, emails, calls, social media... it never ends!
Actually, while technology gives us more ways to connect, I find myself having fewer meaningful conversations. Anyone else feel the same?
I disagree that modern technology has made communication worse. We have so many more opportunities to stay connected now. It's all about how we use these tools.
The story about the great aunt and uncle's relationship surviving on letters is beautiful. Makes me wonder if our relationships today would be stronger if we had to put that much thought into our communications.
I totally understand what the author means about placing ego above empathy. I've caught myself doing this in my own relationships and it's something I'm actively working on.
This article really resonates with me. The comparison between modern communication and those heartfelt letters from the 1960s makes me think about how we've lost something special in our instant messaging world.