How To Identify Your Core Beliefs About Your Self-worth
We’re here to talk about all things self-worth, from what it means and how to define it, to how it presents itself, why self-worth looks different for different people, and we’ll explore the reasons behind why we believe the things we believe about ourselves and how those beliefs got there.
What is self-worth?
If you have access to social media and use platforms like Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, etc.; if you watch network TV programs or stream popular shows on Netflix and Hulu; if you flip through lifestyle magazines while waiting at the doctor’s office, chances are you’ve at the very least seen or heard the term “self-worth.”
While the term has gained traction and popularity exponentially over the past couple of decades, “self-worth” is not a new concept. We see it in books and magazines and news articles, and we hear about it in podcasts and radio broadcasts.
Self-worth is represented among all forms of media and the rate that the concept is picking up speed is remarkable. Millennials and “Gen Z”-ers have latched onto the term, fed and nourished it, and contributed to its growing popularity and relevance.
What exactly is self-worth, though? Is it the same thing as self-esteem, self-love, or self-efficacy? While it may be similar in meaning, the term “self-worth” stands on its own.
Self-worth is defined by how you feel about yourself, to be put simply.
Your sense of self-worth is determined by how you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror, how you describe yourself to other people, what labels you’ve placed on yourself, and how you choose to care for yourself.
There is a multitude of other factors that equal the summation of your self-worth as well; the totality of your self-worth is not limited to these factors alone.
Self-worth is a concept that describes how you feel about who you are as a person.
Self-worth doesn’t have to do with what you look like; that’s more related to self-esteem (for example, being obsessed and vain with your appearance may lead you to either like yourself more or like yourself less).
What does self-worth look like?
People often confuse the terms “self-worth” and “self-care.” Caring for yourself in certain ways or denying yourself care are actions of self-care or self-harm that show the world how you view yourself: what your sense of self-worth looks like.
Whether you like or dislike yourself, take pristine care of yourself or take a lackadaisical approach to self-care, harm yourself intentionally or keep yourself safe, fuel your body with nutrient-rich foods or gorge and over-eat regularly, exercise or live the life of a lazy person: these are all acts that reveal how you truly feel about yourself.
The act itself (for example, over-eating regularly) is not self-worth, but self-care or self-harm. Again, self-worth is how you feel about yourself. Self-care acts are how your self-worth is revealed to those around you.
That being said, self-worth comes in many different packages.
Self-worth can be high (loving yourself), low (hating yourself), or somewhere in between (feeling indifferent towards yourself).
How you feel about yourself is a direct reflection of your self-worth. If you love and care about yourself, you will act in ways that show it. If you’re disgusted by who you are, again, you will act in ways that reflect that belief.
Does self-worth vary from person to person?
Because we are all individuals with varying pasts, different life experiences and lessons, different memories, beliefs, ideas, and ideologies, we each hold our own individualized self-worth.
Self-worth looks different for everyone; it varies depending on your life experiences and your personal beliefs about who you are.
You will not feel about yourself the same way your neighbor feels about themselves, and vice versa. You may love yourself while your mother hates herself. You may feel as though you need improvement, while your best friend is vain and conceited, holding themselves in high regard.
Since we all grow up under different circumstances, we are all molded and shaped to believe certain things about ourselves, and this leads to varying degrees of positive or negative self-worth.
How do I determine my self-worth?
If you are unsure of where your self-worth falls, spend some time analyzing the ways in which you treat yourself, both good and bad.
Take a good look at the way you treat yourself. Your actions towards yourself are a direct reflection of your self-worth.
If you tend to act in ways that bring you pain, distress, or numbness, the likelihood is high that you have a low sense of self-worth. You bring harm to yourself through your own chosen methods (binging on food, drugs, or alcohol, ruining relationships, etc.).
These acts mirror low self-worth. You don’t view yourself as a good or valuable person, you think you’re unlovable or unworthy of care, or you generally dislike who you are.
The same can be said for high self-worth.
If you act in ways that bring you joy, happiness, and peace, you most likely have a high sense of self-worth. You care about yourself, and your actions reflect that.
Self-care acts can be anything that puts you in a better and healthier place, increases your mood, strengthens your relationships, enhances your physical wellbeing, and protects your mind and heart.
In between low and high self-worth is a vast spectrum of self-directed feelings that reveal how you think about yourself.
You could feel one way about yourself on Monday, but by Thursday have a completely different outlook based on the ever-expanding list of factors that contribute to your sense of self-worth.
Whatever your self-worth is, whether you love or loathe yourself, is not necessarily good or bad; it just is what it is. It can be taken, analyzed, shaped, and altered into something new based on your hopes of how you see yourself.
Once you have a strong understanding of where your self-worth is on a regular basis, you can then dive into why you feel the way you do.
Here is where we learn how to uncover and identify what you believe and why you believe it.
How do I identify my core beliefs about my self-worth?
When identifying your core beliefs about your self-worth and why it is what it is (high or low or in between), take a good look into your childhood, how you were raised, your environment growing up, things you were taught, and influential people in your life.
You could have your respective sense of self-worth based on an array of factors, ranging from a memory you have from second grade to a news article that struck a nerve with you ten years ago.
The amount of memories and moments and life lessons that unite and coalesce to form your self-worth is literally insurmountable. You may be able to drum up a couple of indelible memories that led you to believe what it is you believe about yourself, but you will not remember everything.
Some memories and lessons you’ve embedded into your subconscious, which affect your self-worth unknowingly.
However, the task of identifying your core beliefs is not inherently difficult. The challenge comes with the question “why;” why you believe what you believe. That’s where the real work begins.
Self-worth is on your side. It has a need and thirst to be healthy and strong, fueling you for greatness in your everyday life. If you desire to change how you see yourself, dive into your reasons why you believe what you believe. It is in those roots that you’ll find answers, and from there you can begin to care for yourself and speak to yourself in ways that reveal how you desire to feel about yourself.
Opinions and Perspectives
I never realized how much my self-worth influences my daily choices until reading this
This article perfectly explains why quick fix solutions don't work for improving self-worth
The insights about generational differences in understanding self-worth are fascinating
I'm learning to separate my worth from my productivity after reading this
The article helps explain why changing our self-worth takes more than just positive thinking
Understanding that self-worth is different from self-esteem has been game-changing for me
I've noticed my self-worth improves when I focus on my values rather than achievements
The article could have explored more about how relationships affect our self-worth
I'm curious about how others maintain their self-worth during difficult times
It's interesting to think about how our self-worth affects our decision-making
I appreciate how the article emphasizes that changing self-worth is possible
The section about subconsious beliefs really resonated with me. There's so much we don't realize about ourselves
Anyone else find it challenging to maintain their self-worth in competitive environments?
I'm trying to practice speaking to myself more kindly after reading this
The article helped me understand why my self-worth fluctuates so much
Wonder if there's a connection between social media use and declining self-worth in young people
I've started paying attention to how I treat myself when no one's watching. Very revealing
The part about childhood influences explains so much about my current struggles
Reading about the spectrum of self-worth made me realize it's not just a high or low thing
I wish the article had included more specific examples of how different life experiences shape self-worth
It's fascinating how our self-worth can impact even the smallest daily choices we make
Sometimes I think we focus too much on fixing low self-worth instead of maintaining healthy self-worth
The article's emphasis on individual journeys is important. We can't use someone else's roadmap
I've noticed my self-worth improves when I set and maintain healthy boundaries
Anyone else feel overwhelmed by trying to identify all their core beliefs?
The connection between self-worth and self-care actions is really making me rethink my habits
I find myself questioning whether my self-worth is truly mine or just what society has taught me to believe
I'm starting to see how my low self-worth has been holding me back in my career
The idea that self-worth is separate from achievements is freeing but also scary
Has anyone successfully improved their self-worth? What worked for you?
I never considered how my self-worth might be affecting my daily decisions until reading this
The article made me think about how my parents' self-worth might have influenced mine
It's interesting how our self-worth can be so different from how others see us
I think the hardest part is maintaining high self-worth when facing criticism or failure
The article mentions subconscious beliefs. I wonder how we can access and change those
Anyone else notice how their self-worth affects their relationships with others?
Reading this made me reflect on how I talk to myself. I realized I'm pretty harsh sometimes
The distinction between self-worth and self-esteem is subtle but important. I'm still trying to fully understand it
I've found that journaling about my self-worth has helped me identify some of those core beliefs the article mentions
It's interesting to think about how different our lives might be if we all had healthy self-worth from the start
I appreciate how the article acknowledges that we can't remember everything that's shaped our self-worth
The section about self-worth being fluid and changing over time gives me hope that it can be improved
Does anyone else find it hard to separate their accomplishments from their sense of self-worth?
The part about analyzing self-care actions as indicators of self-worth was eye-opening. I never made that connection before
I wonder how many of us are walking around with low self-worth without even realizing it
The article's point about self-worth being separate from appearances really challenged my thinking
Reading about how self-worth varies from person to person made me feel less alone in my struggles
I used to think having high self-worth meant being confident all the time. This article helped me understand it's more nuanced than that
It's fascinating how our self-worth can affect every aspect of our lives without us even realizing it
I'm curious about how cultural differences affect self-worth. The article seems to take a very Western perspective
What practical steps can we take to improve our self-worth once we've identified our core beliefs?
The article made me realize I've been confusing self-care routines with actual self-worth. Just because I do face masks doesn't mean I value myself
I find it interesting how millennials and Gen Z have embraced this concept so much more than previous generations
Yes, I tried looking into my childhood influences. It was hard but really enlightening. I discovered patterns I never noticed before
I appreciate how the article emphasizes that everyone's self-worth journey is different. We can't compare ourselves to others
The section about how self-worth manifests in our actions was particularly helpful. Made me realize I need to pay more attention to my behavioral patterns
I've noticed my self-worth tends to be tied to my achievements, which the article suggests isn't healthy. Anyone else struggle with this?
Has anyone tried the suggestion of analyzing their childhood influences? I started doing this and it's been quite overwhelming
You raise a good point about social media. I feel like it's created this pressure to constantly work on ourselves without actually addressing the deeper issues
The part about subconscious memories affecting our self-worth really hit home. There's probably so much influencing us that we're not even aware of
Sometimes I wonder if social media's obsession with self-worth is helping or hurting us. Are we overthinking it all?
I struggle with the concept that self-worth can change so quickly from day to day. Mine feels pretty constant, even if not in a good way
The distinction between self-care actions and self-worth itself was eye-opening for me. I've been focusing too much on external actions without addressing my core beliefs
Actually I understand what the article means about self-worth not being inherently good or bad. It's more about recognizing where you are so you can work on improving if needed
I disagree with the idea that self-worth isn't inherently good or bad. Surely having extremely low self-worth is objectively harmful to one's wellbeing?
What resonated with me most was how our childhood experiences shape our self-worth. Looking back, I can see how certain moments really impacted how I view myself today
I found this article really insightful, especially the part about how self-worth differs from self-esteem. I always thought they were the same thing